I had to be sure he would be in my life in for a long time. I had a pool party with about four adult guests, him being one of them. We did about five more group outings before he came to do things with just me and my two children.We slowly began doing fun kids things with just the four of us.I was sitting at a computer in my parents’ family room. “Yeah, that’s fine and everything mom, but what about, you know, physical affection and stuff? If there is a woman you are considering for marriage, you should approach her mahram [male relative].
It's simply impossible for me to address all of the fantastic individual questions and comments we've received, but know that we will do our very best to incorporate as many as possible into the columns themselves and the blog discussions that follow. Quite a few of you asked questions or made comments about my statement in Biblical Dating, an Introduction that "Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy" outside of marriage. They are normal-human-interaction-with-the-opposite-gender-deprived. While living in Syria and in Egypt, I’d regularly see large groups of young men huddled around computers in internet cafes looking at porn.Talking to someone over the phone, through email or the internet, or in the company of a mahram, gives you a chance to find out more about them…I think the person who wrote it realized that the devil is everywhere anyway, but it doesn’t just sound as good to say…“Whenever one man buys lentils from another man at a shop, the devil is their third partner.” Or my favorite?Don't know how long you've been together, but maybe he's not entirely comfortable with the relationship yet, nervous to show up with his friends with a 'girlfriend', so he's tiptoeing around it.Ideally he would talk to you about it and the two of you could problem-solve together, a great trait of a healthy relationship, although it was surely obvious to his friends that you were more than a 'friend'. What kind of affection did you show him in those situations?by Scott Croft Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: An Introduction." * * * A promise is a promise.