I am here to loudly and proudly tell you my mother was wrong and all the messaging out there that has a similar tone to it is wrong as well.
There is an overabundance of love, dating and marriage happiness and overall life happiness out there for a fat, overweight, plus size …
If you are fat like me, or used to be like some other lucky ex-members of our club who probably bribed the weighing scale to flash skinny, you know the forever-itch to lose weight. Shedding those extra pounds so we don’t have to hide in the shadows, be whisked to dorm rooms and apartments under the cover of night, and then, sent right back in the wee hours of the morning lest some frat bro or roommate belittle the conquest of our douchebag date, used to be our ONLY wish in life. No, I am not ranting – coz I myself find the bitter ‘’ kind of token consolatory refrains mean and derogatory! But there is an undeniable stigma attached to dating a fat girl – like we can be ‘oodles’ of fun to pick for a night but never worthy of being on your arm on date nights or introduced to your friends, much less grace wedding pictures! Or even if you do, you have the know-how for dating one.
I am also done dating the tonnes of others who’d deny that I am fat and insist that I am beautiful! To the men – Dating a fat girl may not fall under your quintessential notion of ‘achievement.’ But who made skinny girls queens of the world anyway!
Guys looking for tips on dating a plus-sized woman should remember immediately that their girl is like every other woman out there: she wants to feel special.
Accept her for the beautiful person she is, and treat her with unshakeable confidence that she is the woman you want.
And yet even when the number of people who are considered overweight form the majority of the population, obesity is in many ways one of the remaining acceptable prejudices.
Last week, the #fatshamingweek hastag was trending on Twitter as numerous assholes and shitbags took to the network and decided to mock fat people – mostly women, but men too – from behind the dubious anonymity of their Twitter accounts.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.However, you should be aware that like all women, a plus-sized girl may have confidence issues and sensitivities to some types of teasing.Not all women focus on weight, but for those that do, comments about her eating or size can be taken the wrong way. It would simply be a ridiculous notion and careless of me.I would however like to share with you some of my story and the wisdom I have learned over the past decades not only as a dating coach but also as a plus size woman.Now, I’m going to be blunt: dating can suck when you’re fat.